Ok. I have a question!
Why have I been constantly hearing that when it comes to the topic of marriage, men get scared willy-nilly.
WHATS UP!?
Should a girl bullshit her way through dating and not bring up the conversation until – what 3 years into the relationship, only to find out that the guy is a commitment-phobe?
And should I mask the fact that I’m a chick, and not tell you that – YES I may indulge in a little fantasy on the first date, wondering if your surname is going to be mine as you the guy might think about my booty on a lonely night? Are men not ballsy enough to understand that it’s just that- a little fantasy? Is being honest too full-on?
I say – spit it out on the first date! Name your intentions! Are you looking for:
a. A fling
b. A one night stand
c. Marriage
d. Just a friend
e. Anything will do, all of the above.
Please tick your category, and if our check-boxes coincide, well then, let’s see… shall we?
Should women state their intentions clearly early on? Why do men (in general) get turned-off by the idea of commitment?
Your thoughts please. 
Commmitment is something that comes with time, with experiences spent together, with emotional investment in a relationship. Presumably women would behave in the same way if asked by a first-date to start a long-term bond with them. Fantasies are fine, though a positive answer is not likely to be forthcoming from someone who’s not comfortable with you yet.
First dates are nerve-wrecking as it is.
General rule of thumb for me, broach nothing in the first year of dating & frolicking in bed (but then I’ve always been a slow worker; story of the Tortoise and the Hare, I was definitely the tortoise). Unless this person is someone you’ve known for ages.
Enjoy the moment, sweets. Most of the fun IS the journey.
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Should women state their intentions clearly early on?
(You could if you want, it depends. Some can be cunning, some honest, some desperate, some playing mind games)
Why do men (in general) get turned-off by the idea of commitment?
(With commitment comes responsibility, limitations of choices, and lack of freedom)
There is no hard and fast rule on this, unless someone starts a global trend. Technically though, you can spot if your guy is open to discussions like these.
The reason why men freeze up on the notion of marriage is because they enjoy their freedom, see the movie The Bachelor, as opposed to women who, according to society and biological clocks, need to get married at a “young” age.
My .02
vince
HI
There Are those… that will to marry early, those of the male species,like myself but I have not found that one girl that can bring my cartoon like imagination of love to erupt in me.
You say you “may indulge in a little fantasy” but we men also do. You think of the long term while men think of the now… this because women make it so. As much as I’d like to think far ahead, to delve into the mind of a woman,to be the romantic that I dream of, I can only think in short burst as it is a woman purgative to change her mind.
So how to form the future when women are the writers and we, men, merely the readers. You ask to much of us… meet us half way…meet us at a place of reality where your fantasy meets our cartoon like love.
That witch is formed on the sand will be taken away by the weakest of storms but that witch is build on a foundation of Rock will last even the strongest of forces.
Love is great to think of in fantasy but real…strong…worth while love only reaches story book proportions once the work …blood, sweat, and tears have been taken into account.
so let fantasize but let do it with real thought that no man or women for that fact is perfect. Maybe just maybe we can then create something real.
at least I think so.
By hope that help if not it was …weird writing this.
respectfully your
leodragoneyes