Do you believe in soul mates? Or is it just a romantic, floosey notion that some sap made up? And if we meet our soul mate, who happens to be of the opposite sex, does that mean we will end up in a romantic relationship with them?
What is a soul mate?
I Googled it today. Wikipedia came up with:
Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one’s soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join. However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations.
As I’ve been getting to know Mr Married, this notion has popped up in my head somewhat over time. I’m not confirming that I believe he is my soul mate. But rather, entertaining the notion of a what-if. However, I must be extremely realistic about this and also say : I’ve spoken to him more times in my head than I have actually physically met up with him. But each time we have spoken, or met up – something has clicked for me. Anyway, so… take this with a pinch of salt, as I try to not run away with the romantic fairies once again…
Definitions throughout time:
Soul lovers – someone you love, and would do anything for, and someone who loves you, and would do anything for you. And in that love, nothing is required for either person, because everything is already given. You love them more than anything in the world and could not live without them. Erm. Ok I don’t think we’re quite there.
Soul sister/brother – some one belonging in the same soul group as you and therefore having an unusually strong bond and likeness to you. This I can believe. Mr Married and I do seem to function on a very similar energy wave pattern system. Emotionally, our soul vibrations definitely seem to be in sync.
Classical – Greek mythology – Originally humans were combined of four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spending their lives searching for the other half to complete them. This theory was presented as a half-serious story by Aristophanes in Plato’s Symposium, after all the participants at the Symposium (“drinking party”) were charged to philosophize on the topic of love. Romantic. But a bit too idealistic, fancy, schmancy for me.
Spiritual and religious – concepts of reincarnation and karma. Soulmates have spent many previous lifetimes together. Not quite sure I believe this, but I don’t deny the possibility.
Karmic soulmate – someone who has a special mission or influence on one’s life. Totally. But I don’t believe this necessarily applies to Mr Married exclusively. There have been a select few along the way who I think have been this for me, and I for them.
Companion soulmate – People with whom one has made a connection. At this point, I’m going to be put Mr Married and I as this.
Twin soulmates – Very close friends with whom one has strong bonds.
Twin flame soulmate – A popular romantic belief that there is only one true soulmate. Bzzz. Nope. Next.
Scientific soulmate – (If) a relationship can be quantified, and scored according to an internal happiness scale. A scientific soulmate is the person with whom you are the absolute happiest. You would therefore be less happy with any other person in existence.
Balance partners and messengers – The people you meet along the way who help you create balance in your life. This is interesting. I’ve met many friends along the way who I term ‘angels,’ who have added such richness to my life in playing this role. I believe Mr Pan right now is this for me.
Divine complement – A new colloquialism for a ‘match made in heaven’, a twin soul, who holds inborn potentials that match and complement one’s own and who is linked eternally through a signature in the heart at the dimension of the spirit. Don’t believe that any match was made in heaven. Do believe in the ones created on earth☺
Coming back to Mr Married and I. There have been several ironies that have allowed me to entertain the notion that perhaps we might be kindred spirits on some level. We are very similar emotionally on many levels. Operating on the same energy vibrations is something I have not been attuned to with many people. Something about this one is a little bit different, perhaps because I see many similarities in the both of us. Of course this makes me wonder – if two people have such similar dispositions, can they cope with each other? Or will their similarities eventually drive each other up the wall?
When I mean similar I mean – we are both strong headed. In our passionate natures, this is probably what has drawn us to each other, and could possibly repel us as well. It’s that feeling of being extremely alive when you’re with that person, and yet that’s the exact same reason that makes you have enough of him or her very soon. I wonder, if at the end of the day, for sanctity and sanity of a marriage, if it’s better to have people who are opposite in disposition (eg. One calm, the other more passionate).
One thing I do know is that if we ever do get together, I’m going to be the one who should know when to shut up. And learn to be less dogmatic. Of course, the question really is – can I REALLY let a man tell me what to do? 
Hell I don’t know. ☺ But neither am I worried about it. Am in the process of conducting a field research with many married couples though, young and old, to see the different dynamics of relationships. Stay Tuned…
