Let’s call him Peter Pan.
He’s that quintessential boy that never grows-up.
He’s sweet, he’s trusting, and he’ll do anything to please you. He’s probably that 0.001% of the male population that you can trust to tell you the truth. BUT, and believe me, with women, there is always a but.
He’s Peter Pan.
The boy that refuses to grow-up. The kid that doesn’t want to acknowledge the fact that he’s now a full-blown adult who will in all eventuality, have bills to pay, a housing loan to deal with, kids to feed, a car to pay off, and a career to grow. He’s the one that chooses those ‘Wendy-type’ of girlfriends, expecting her to push him and ‘nurture’ him in a way his mother was supposed to. The boy that makes Wendy his girlfriend, marries her, and then complains how much of an old-nag she is later on.
Well. There-in lies the dilemma. I don’t want to be Wendy. Wendy after all was just a kid herself pretending to be all grown-up. And yet, at the same time, friends tell me, how often do you come across a guy you can truly trust? Is it that bad? Are men that un-trustable that it’s either Peter Pan or.. Captain Hook?
Sheesh.
Anyhoo, as the story goes, me and Peter Pan are taking a break. After four years of working and living together, and being unable to make a real commitment, I think it’s time for some serious deliberation.
Let me tell you about wendy, she ain’t the same woman you read about in fairy tales.. but thats another story, hope you find your knight in shining armour
Wendy…
From an ex-Wendy who actually married her Peter Pan (and later divorced him due to utter frustration and exasperation).. don’t do it.
As women, no matter how independent and successful we are, we like to feel the man we are with is.. well.. a man. You stop seeing your Peter Pan as such when you have to push him to find a job, or convince him to work harder or pay his bills.. or…or… or…
No thanks. You will end up hating him and resenting him for his immature, nonchalent and lazy ways. No matter how kind the heart, let us be realistic. There is a minimum compatability which has to occur for a marriage to work. Compatability occurs when you have similar goals, views and values.
Go for the real thing. It’s your life.. no one lives it for you and if you feel exasperated now, imagine what you’ll feel when you will have mouths to feed, bills to pay and you will be the only adult in the household.
Be strong. Follow your instinct. Neverland doesn’t exist.
Jeeezzes if you love him marry him, take a leap of faith. Or you can always wait for that man in shining armour, you know the one who rides the horse.. but the key word here is wait..cause turst me, there’s never THE perfect one.