I’ve been quite fascinated with the idea of blogging for awhile now. I just wasn’t quite sure what to say.
And then tonight, I came home from a hard months of work.
Not even 1/2 an hour into my evening of relaxation and down-time, does my mother come up to me and ask me – “So, are you going to marry him? If you aren’t going to marry him, what are you doing with him for so long? Why don’t you want to marry him? You’re not getting any younger you know…” and so on and so forth.
And so probably in pure frustration and confusion, my blog is born.
Dear world, What’s up with this marriage thing? Why do women (especially Asian women) come with a use-by date of 29 years of age give or take a wrinkle or two.
I’m 25 years old this year. I’ve done the calculations. My friends are starting to remind me. I have two years to find the man of my dreams.
One year to go out with him and make sure he is in actual fact ‘the man of my dreams’. And another lee-way year just in case I want to bail. Or he does.
Ofcourse if that happens i’m pretty much screwed. I’ll be defined as ‘put-on-the-shelf,’ ‘old maid,’ ‘lesbian’ and God-forbid- the worst of the lot ‘Aun-ty.’
So, here marks my quest to find ‘The Man’. I know it’s trivial. What about world peace, what about famine, what about poverty, you ask? Sure all those matter. But I guess what fun would solving the worlds problems be if we didn’t have someone to share them with.
Okay that’s the corniest thing I’m ever going to say. Promise.
mel, i concur. however, going thru the same experience (as in mum & friends… worst… your supposed life partner pesters you) of why marriage is such an annoying subject.
someone shared a 2yr-go-out-&-get-married philosphy. ironically, it was my gf who told me that. if the relationship last more than that, it’s better off out.
Marry? Its a big world out there and for all you know, he or she could be waiting on the other side!
World Peace? With the guys handling it at the mo? Well, all I can say is,”No Way!”. The good news- the same guys aren’t brave enough or too stupid to start a BIG ONE!
What about selfish reasons? Marriage ain’t all its made out to be, you know. Apart from not having bastards for children, what other reason is there for marriage?
Commitment? Commitment is, “You Jump, I Jump!” and not, “Do you? I Do”.
Anyway, think of all the sharks you have to kill just for the dinner!
For Better Or Worse
All I can say is marriage is a life-time commitment. It is a three-way relationship for God is the center of the relationship.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. . . . Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church. —Ephesians 5:22,25
If you do not understand the above-mentioned, you are not ready for marriage
Am already 21 and i can feel the pressure from a few relatives like (eavesdropping apparently) ‘are you going to matchmake her?’ ‘ooh, she looks so much matured! Can marry already!’ I went like ‘ARGH!! HELP!!’ the marriage subject could drive one crazy if you let it.. so don’t think much of it and take your time no matter what they say!!
Stop banging your balls and getting hung up over what it is you feel you should be doing and start thinking instead about what it is you really want to do.
Do you want to get married? If you do then go and find the man of your dreams. You should decide this. It’s your life! Sure it’s going to suck when your friends and family give you the dirty looks and make the stupid jokes, and there will be more than once when you have to deal with, god forbid, condescension.
If you don’t want to get married you shouldn’t have to – and you will have to fight the hardest to keep it that way. But that makes it worth treasuring.
If you’re undecided (just like I’d bet most women are, but as you can see I’m generalising, so best to remain anonymous to avoid women scorned) then I have no idea what to say to you. Maybe you should just get married to preserve your sanity. But you’re probably already slightly mad because you can’t decide. So it doesn’t really matter!
29’s the use-by date? That’s bullcrap.
And guys have an essentially limitless shelf-age. I think this double standard is more glaring in Singapore than, say, Australia. Think it’s more so for an asian society than western ones.
Women, take the first step and refuse to confirm to this blatant disparity. And guys like myself shouldn’t perpetuate it either.
if its the wrong woman/man, still marry ? must be kidding……..
so what if we are 30s, 40s, 50s or even when we step into our grave..
My sympathies.
My situation is just as bad, if not worse.
(Male here though)
Sometimes these well-meaning relatives just irritate the hell outta us youngsters. They need to know when to shut their gap.